There’s a message that is so important that I feel compelled to share with people today: love yourself. It seems simple enough, right?
I can’t believe how many times I have to learn and re-learn to take care of myself, put myself first and love myself. Somewhere along the way I developed the habit of almost always putting others before me. Putting others first can often be a loving thing to do. However…
… Don’t put others before yourself so much that you put yourself last when it comes to everything.
Someone recently described it to me this way: During the safety guideline instructions on a plane, you are told that in a situation where oxygen masks are required to put the mask on yourself before helping someone else put theirs on.
It’s like that.
I’ve been trying to apply this principle to my life more often.
If someone had a problem with me, I would stress and stress about it, trying to think about what I did wrong and what I should change. It’s good to be aware of how your actions affect other people. But you know what? Sometimes the way people treat you is because of them, not you.
I was in this exact situation recently. I realized that this person being rude to me wasn’t my fault – they were (are) just a jerk. I don’t need to change a thing. When I realized this, it was so freeing.
Everyone can benefit from these things:
- Realize that it’s OK to be a little more self-motivated.
- Give yourself the benefit of the doubt.
- Love yourself.